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What Happens When You Quit Porn?

Quitting porn can change everything

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Here are a few reasons why you might want to quit porn in the first place:

  • You feel withdrawn from life and like you're failing at everything.
  • You can't enjoy sex IRL: your dick doesn't do what it's meant to, or you just don’t feel satisfied.
  • You used to be an outgoing guy, but these days you feel awkward and socially anxious.

Whether you realise it or not, quitting porn can change everything. It's time to get your life back on track and start enjoying yourself . Read on to find out how good life can get after you reboot.

We haven't written about all the benefits you might experience when you reboot: if we did, this article would be way too long for anyone to bother reading. Instead, we've gone through hundreds of real life accounts from men on a quest to reboot, and made note of some of the best and most common benefits you can expect when you quit porn.

Note: the road to recovery might not be smooth

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Now before we get into the amazing after-effects of quitting, a note: The positives aren't necessarily going to all happen at once, and you might go through some withdrawal symptoms before things get better.

How long you go through withdrawal will depend on how long you've been using porn; everyone's relationship with porn is slightly different, and so quitting is a slightly different experience for everyone too.

Here are some withdrawal symptoms which you may notice:

  • Mood swings: if you were using porn to avoid stress and negative emotions, removing your go-to coping mechanism can initially make real life overwhelming. Try replacing porn with more healthy stress busters– like meditation or yoga.
  • Insomnia: if you don't have that habitual tension release before hitting the sack, it's possible you'll have more nervous energy kicking around and be less able to sleep. A solid exercise routine can really help here.
  • Boredom: real life can feel a bit dull when you’ve been numbing yourself with heavy porn use. Be patient with yourself; soon you’ll feel more alive and curious to get into some healthier hobbies.
  • Flatline or skyrocketing libido: you might get a real dip or surge in your libido before it reaches a healthy balance.


Your sensitivity to life comes back

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Being hooked on porn can numb your sensitivity both physically and mentally (here's why).

When you commit to quit porn, you start finding joy in life’s simple pleasures. And maybe you've felt numb for so long that you don't even remember how good the simple things can feel.

For a while you probably needed extreme stimulation (like hardcore porn or sex) to get any sensations on your body. As your dopamine levels get back to normal, you’ll be feeling warm and fuzzy from a cuddle on the sofa with your partner, and a hug from your buddy will put a smile on your face.

When you’ve been hooked for a while you can feel pretty indifferent about life, and like nothing interests you or really gets you going. Dudes who've rebooted start to enjoy everyday experiences like going to the cinema or walking the dog again. Plus, you might feel a hype to pick up abandoned hobbies, or get into new ones.

After quitting porn, you’ll re/discover that you're not a robot devoid of emotions. Now, this does mean you're going to be feeling all the feels – the desirable ones, and the unwanted ones too.

“Porn, at its core, is much like any other addictive substance or behaviour. It DOES numb your pain, but therein lies the problem. You see, you can’t selectively numb an emotion or feeling without numbing every other emotion and feeling. So even though these things dull the sting of vulnerability, loneliness, sadness, disappointment and fear, they also dull the positive range of emotions like happiness, hope, joy and love.” - Your Brain On Porn

Rebooting will give you the confidence and clarity to work through unpleasant feelings, and you'll feel stronger and more positive as a result.


You Get Your Mojo Back

When you quit porn, you can look forward to real life sex getting a whole lot more enjoyable and satisfying, in a number of ways.

As your physical sensitivity gradually comes back, you feel more during sex - the touch of your partner's hands and body feels electric again.

I’d always heard about surveys where they’d say that men who don’t watch porn are “more satisfied” with their sex lives. I never really knew what that was, or I thought I was “satisfied” enough. But now, on this streak, I’ve seen the difference. It’s like night and day! It’s better in sooo many ways. More satisfying, it’s a better experience physically, mentally it’s better as well. Can’t even explain. - Reddit user

With feelings pumping through you again, you'll be more able to connect with your partner emotionally, which will boost your sex life. Because the secret to amazing sex isn't necessarily in positions from the kama sutra – it's in connection.

Another vital ingredient to good sex is presence. When you're hooked on porn, drifting into porn-related fantasies during sex can happen a lot. This may have turned you on before, but eventually, it becomes part of what blocks you from real pleasure. Once you reboot, porn fantasies will gradually disappear, so you're more present with your partner in the bedroom. More presence during sex = more pleasure and satisfaction.

Big relief: if you were experiencing problems down below (ED, DE, PE...) those will gradually start to fade too. How long it takes, however, depends on how long and how hard (excuse the pun) you've been hitting the porn, so be patient and don't lose hope: your dick will start to cooperate again.

You'll no longer feel like a letdown in the bedroom, so you'll feel more confident and relaxed during sex. And that means more enjoyment and fulfilment for both you and your partner.

After rebooting, orgasms feel better. How is that possible? As you shake off sexual dysfunctions, mental hang-ups and distracting fantasies, porn-induced orgasms will seem like a cold physical release in comparison to a proper, mind-body-explosive orgasm with a real life human.

You feel more confident socially

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Guys who get hooked on porn often wind up feeling anxious in social situations, for a combination of reasons.

Firstly, there's a link between the dopamine in your brain and how confident you feel – and dopamine levels are seriously hindered by addiction. Secondly, with a porn habit that's out of control, you're likely carrying around a lot of shame which makes you feel awkward around people.

And it’s not only around your buddies: you likely feel super awkward and nervous around real girls when you spend more time with pixelated ones.

After you quit porn you'll feel like you've been reborn.

Maybe your brain's been influenced by porn for so long (some of us start watching from as young as 10) that it's impossible to tell what about your personality is just who you are, and what is actually down to your porn addiction.

‘I have suffered from social anxiety and blushing all of my adult life. (I’m 50). Stopped PMO, social anxiety and blushing along with many other problems are now zero. This is no coincidence.’ - Reddit user

Guys who have been diagnosed with conditions like OCD and ADHD also noticed radical changes after rebooting. So if you’re low on self esteem, confidence, or you feel socially impaired in some way, you're probably going to get a nice surprise after you reboot. You'll realise it wasn't 'just you' after all.

‘On the fourth week when my sex drive was really high I was really confident. Before I would break eye contact in fear of socially awkward moments or just coming off as creepy, but this time I wasn’t socially awkward and didn’t feel creepy when I held eye contact without saying anything. [...] The woman around me could feel the confidence, happy feelings and sexuality radiating from me. [...] I felt like a much more attractive person. I made clever remarks and I was much more genuinely interested in getting to know people. I was funny and at times didn’t give a fuck about what I said, because I was confident in all my actions [...] whereas before when I said something weird in a social setting I would get depressed and then wouldn’t talk as much as a result.’ - Reddit user

Your brain gets sharper

Brain fog, problems concentrating, bad memory and low motivation are classic symptoms of the addiction process in the brain.

These problems aren't permanent, and you'll notice some real improvements after you reboot.

I am on a 10 day streak of no porn and no artificial sexual stimulation. The last few days I haven’t had any brain fog, my concentration has been much better, and I have had very little anxiety.’ - Reddit user

Quitting porn is basically rebooting your brain. Soon you'll be better at completing tasks without getting distracted, able to retain information better, and think more clearly. Plus, with normal dopamine levels restored, you'll feel more motivated to work towards your goals (or start setting new ones).

Without porn consuming your brain, you'll have the mental clarity to feel like you can achieve whatever you set out to do.

I’ve always had issues focusing. In college I didn’t do well unless I was on Adderall. I was unable to finish a book unless it was extremely interesting. My mind would just bombard me with a million ideas or urges making it difficult to study or read. [...] I just finished a book yesterday That I have been meaning to read for the past 6 months. I’ve also had better luck applying for jobs and working on projects. Anyone else experienced this? - Reddit user  

You will grow as a person

When you quit porn, your whole perspective on life starts to shift: you start to understand how special life is.

If you relapse along the way it is part of the process, you'll soon get to a place where you'll never look back. You’ll lose interest in porn and start to see the dark side of it all, and you’ll feel less obsessed with sex in general. You'll start to realise that there’s so much more to life that you don’t want to miss out on anymore.

As your emotional sensitivity floods back, you'll be feeling moved by experiences that before did nothing for you. And you'll shy away from all the weird and extreme stuff which in your porn days didn't even make you blink.

With all this newfound awareness and sensitivity, how you interact with the world around you starts to shift, and you'll connect more with a creative side that you didn't even know you had in you.

After only 11 days, I feel like a different person. I’m much more talkative and aware in social settings. At work, I’m on top of everything instead of forgetting things and asking people to repeat themselves. It’s been over a decade since I started looking at/watching porn and this feels like this is how I truly am. - Reddit user


‘I have absolutely worked my ass off, but for the first time in my life I feel like I have the time and energy to take on anything that may come my way. I feel more determined than ever to seize my life, and drive towards becoming the person I should be.’ - Reddit user


Everyone's journey with quitting porn is unique, you might experience some other benefits which aren't mentioned here. And every man who reboots has a different timeline to recovery too – which has a lot to do with how long they've been using porn, and how young they were when they started.

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